Reality of Eating Disorders

First – The reason I share this – I’ve been there, i’ve been through my share of dark places, and a few other shares. I know the pain and I know the struggle. the lack of information I had was part of my downfall, so here’s me sharing some info condensed. It gets better, I promise. 

What are they?

Most people at some point feel a need to lose a bit of weight or get a bit fitter, or to comfort eat after a bad day. When these feelings are so common that they become a major part of somebody’s life, there may be an eating disorder. Medically recognised eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are the extreme end of eating problems that can start simply, and get more and more complicated until they control or dominate a person’s life.
A wide range of issues can trigger an eating problem. Often a person feels that they have very little control of the events going on around them and eating problem can make them feel more in control.
An eating disorder can leave a person with a very low self-esteem and a distorted body image. They can lead to depression, and even at place someone at risk of suicide or self-harm. Eating disorders can also damage people’s bodies, sometimes with tragic consequences.

Facts

• Anyone can develop an eating disorder, although most likely it will occur in young women aged 15 to 25.
• Over 1.1 million people in the UK are directly affected by an eating disorder
• Recent research of young people in Scottish secondary schools showed that 68% recognise anorexia as a mental health problem. Only 9% considered someone will an eating disorder to be attention seeking
•Girls and women are 10 times more likely than boys and men to suffer from anorexia or bulimia
• Eating disorders affect 1 fifteen-year-old girl in every 150 and 1 fifteen-year-old boy in
every 10004

Signs and Symptoms

Anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are described here, but it is important to consider that the lines between these problems are blurred, and indeed many people exhibit symptoms of both or either without meeting the precise definition.

Anorexia Nervosa

People with anorexia nervosa avoid eating and lose a lot of weight. They are usually at least 15% below their recommended body weight for their height, and often feel fat, even when they are very thin.

• People with anorexia nervosa have an extreme fear of gaining weight: they feel fat, even when they have lost so much weight that it becomes obvious to others.
• They may starve themselves by only eating tiny quantities of food.
• They can become so preoccupied with their weight and shape, and so distorted in their thinking about food, that it is very difficult for them to accept the need to eat a proper diet.
• They remain fascinated with food and often enjoy cooking for others.
• They often hide food and follow very complicated plans to avoid food and appear heavier than they really are.
• Sometimes they may pretend to have eaten when they have not.
• They may exercise vigorously, use laxatives or make themselves sick in order to lose more weight.
• A girl’s periods may stop or never even start.

Bulimia Nervosa

People with bulimia nervosa eat large amounts of food in ‘binges’ and then make themselves sick, or take laxatives to get rid of the food (purge).
• They may not look overweight or underweight, and because of this their eating problems are often difficult to detect. In fact, they can have great difficulty in controlling their eating – sometimes strictly dieting, at other times giving way to periods of binging.
• The food people eat in a binge is often high in calories, fat, or carbohydrate. As a person begins to fill full, feelings of shame and guilt can overwhelm them. It is those feelings that can trigger the need to purge.
• Continuous binging and vomiting can do serious harm to the body. Frequent weight changes can lead to loss of energy, mood changes and loss of interest in sex. Being sick regularly can result in dehydration, bad breath and serious damage to teeth. Regular use of laxatives can lead to severe bowel disease. Serious imbalances in any of the body’s essential minerals can result in organ failure and even death.

Recovery

• Recovery means different things to different people and no two individual journeys of recovery will be the same. Regardless of symptoms or past experiences, people with mental health problems should be given every opportunity to, and can, lead fulfilling and satisfying lives.
• Recovery from eating disorders can take a long time, and it is common for a person to experience setbacks before achieving a full recovery. Nevertheless, many people do recover completely.
• Eating disorders develop relatively slowly, with the behaviours involved emerging, and becoming more complicated as time passes. It is important for a person’s recovery that they get appropriate support as soon as possible, as once behaviours become ingrained, they can be very hard to alter.
• Treatment for eating disorders can take many forms, including inpatient and outpatient care from hospital teams, treatment from GPs, and support in the community. Other professionals like dieticians and occupational therapists may form part of a care team. Some people find self-help groups useful.
• The support of family and friends is very important to recovery, and if you are supporting someone with an eating disorder, you should look up information from specialist organisations to support you and your friend/relative.

Stigma and Eating Disorders

• Eating disorders are often intensely private, and hidden from view. When it becomes clear that something is wrong, people often get cruel comments, and a lack of understanding from people who do not have adequate information to be supportive.
• People’s stigmatising reactions to mental ill health vary. Sometimes stigma is motivated by fear of the unknown, such as in schizophrenia. For eating disorders, one of the most important aspects to the stigma is disgust.
• Because the consequences of eating problems are often visible, onlookers often find it so hard to feel any empathy or understanding with the behaviour that they react by stigmatising.
• Verbal abuse, or comment is very common. Often people are called names, or their appearance is remarked upon. This abuse comes from friends, family, and even passers by in the street. This type of stigma is especially damaging because eating disorders are so closely linked to body image and self-esteem, the main targets of comments.
• The term “anorexic” has started to become a common adjective to describe very slim people, which can lead to a misunderstanding of what it is really like to have anorexia nervosa.

Myths and Misunderstandings

• Eating disorders are often described as a modern day problem, arising from the catwalk culture of the last thirty years. Although images in the media have been shown to influence some people’s body image, clinically significant eating disorders were first described by Physician and Minister John Reynolds in 1669 and Philosopher Thomas Hobbes in 1688.
• Eating disorders are sometimes dismissed as phases or fads, not serious and something that a person will just grow out of. Eating disorders have many long-term physical and psychological consequences. Anorexia nervosa carries a 13% mortality rate, from physical complications and suicide.
• Eating disorders are often thought of as middle class attention seeking behaviour, something that wilful teenagers do, that could be sorted by eating properly for a few weeks. This is not the case. Eating disorders are very complicated, deeply held routines that for the person involved seem like a perfectly logical way of coping with a difficult situation by controlling one aspect of life. Returning to a more conventional relationship with food may take years, and careful support.

 

Aspire to Inspire. 

 

Little bit broken.

Not sure if I have posted about this before or not, but I’ve written to go back looking through it all so sorry if it’s not new.

I talk of obstacles almost everyday, but for me the obstacle was never motivation, it wasn’t the drive, those things came naturally. For me, sadly, my biggest obstacle was my own body, what a betrayal eh? 

As some may know I suffer from two main issues, hyper-mobility syndrome and junior arthritis, not all shits and giggles. These two mean that basically my joints are hell, they ache, they click, basically they f****** hurt. A lot. AGAIN – I am not looking for sympathy, I kinda love what I have had to overcome. I started out unable to comfortably support a rucksack, unable to run properly, lift anything or train at all. Today I run for miles, life literally hundreds of kilos and do whatever the hell I like.

However today, once more, a new issue arose. My god damn wrist. Quite essential in my fitness work which is somewhat distressing I will admit. Anyone having experienced these issues it would be great to get in contact as to how you have dealt with them. 

Personally I went with the ‘build muscle through the pain’ approach, it still hurts…but it has worked.

So yeah, a little more about me for you.

 

Aspire to Inspire. 

Stopped myself.

I was about to go on a massive rant, in fact I did but I have deleted the whole thing. In essence, if you do not approve of my lifestyle – GO AWAY. Nobody needs to hear your opinions, my success should not be a negative topic to be shared. Sort your shit out and then get back to me. 

‘Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you’.

 

Aspire to Inspire. 

Trying to have a voice.

https://www.facebook.com/PBMoriginal  – My sports-person page 

http://instagram.com/c_j_barney  – My journey on Instagram

https://www.facebook.com/Barney667 – My own personal Facebook

https://callumbarney.wordpress.com/ – This Blog

https://twitter.com/BarneysFitness     – Twitter Feed

5 pages – Daily updates trying to do my part. 5 pages of free advice, unpaid work, edited photos and videos, pages upon pages of text that goes without comment but piles on the followers and views. Few occasions in which feedback is received. YET, it continues. I will keep on working without considerable thanks because that isn’t what I do this for. I do this for a better life – not mine, but yours. I have been through points in life where I dreamt and wished for a hand up in the world. So I told myself if the day ever came when it passed, if the misery in my mind lifted, I would do anything and everything in my power to take this pain from the lives of others. The only way I know how to help is to offer it, to offer advice, experience, knowledge, motivation, resources, time and anything else I can.

 

Aspire to Inspire. 

Getting it right.

Life is made up of a set of categories, those are down to you. For me, those are family, friends, fitness, psychology, travel and my girlfriend. This is just me being proud rather than being that much of a help to others today, sorry. 

As far as I’m concerned, I need nothing more, it doesn’t need to be more complicated than that. Now this is where it gets good, 6 categories, that’s all I have or want. So how is that going? Pretty exceptionally. Somehow I am the lucky bastard who has it all, maybe that’s because ‘ALL’ for me doesn’t form a very long list. 

Family – Very little choice involved, but you do have the choice to learn from them, to do right by them and to care for them. I have that, undoubtedly. Granted they don’t know me all that well and we don’t always get along. But it doesn’t matter, I have them to be so god damn grateful for. A brother who introduced me to fitness and inspired me, a father who taught me incredible work ethic, and a mother who taught me selfless care for others. Pretty valuable lessons. 

Friends – I never kept this list particularly long either. Maybe 10, probably less. But my god I adore these people, I keep a small group of incredible people and I wouldn’t have it any other way. One or two have been around for years and have to some degree saved me, one in particular and he will know who he is. 

Fitness – Okay granted, 2 years working with this one makes it pretty new. But that doesn’t matter, it’s changed my life and is now a large part of who I am. Thanks to fitness I have transformed my life for the better. Now fitter, faster, stronger, leaner, healthier and all round physically better to the degree I am quite exceptional in many fields. Also the mental aspects involved, confidence, dedication, commitment, perseverance, organisation and so god damn much more. Fitness of all sorts has more lessons to teach and a far more hands on approach in teaching them than any classroom I have sat in. 

Psychology – Its a pretty broad one. By psychology I mean the ability to council, to help others, to understand people, to learn, basically all the aspects involved. thanks to my personal work, degree and the placement I have been involved in, this is constantly growing, allowing me to better myself and hopefully the lives of others.  

Travel – A whole world out there and I am getting to see it. Yes there is so much more to see still, but that isn’t the point. 21 years old and I’ve visited 14 countries on countless trips. I am lucky enough to be able to do this and still fit it into my life. Experiences and memories most people couldn’t dream of. 

My girlfriend – A new category of my life. People who know me will know I am damn independent. I learnt not to rely on others and to be me without need of approval. Now not to say this has changed, but maybe just developed. This girl, (yes I leave names out for anonymity of others) isn’t changing me, rather improving my life. I get to be me again, openly and unapologetically, because she accepts me for me (well more than that I think she kinda likes it too). I couldn’t ask for more from a person. Not only that but she is pretty god damn incredible, frankly, the dream girl. 

 

So yeah, all in all I would say I am getting it right, somehow. Through so much hard work, struggles and some serious hardships, I have reached the other end of it, where everything is now going my way. I am amazingly grateful. 

 

Aspire to Inspire.

To hell and back.

Before reading these lines I have a request. If you know me, personally – you have no permission to read on. Apologies but this is my choice, few of you know me well enough or have what I would perceive as the right, to read these lines. Though there are a couple of exceptions to whom I share my life and of course may read on. If you do not know me – this is for you unquestionably, as my intention is to use this to serve others, I can only hope it does. 

 

Let me be very clear, to write this sickens me. To the pit of my stomach, it turns and churns at writing these words. Though it would be easier to go on and never had spoken them, well maybe it’s time to move past that, man up and be as transparent as I had intended.

I intend to share here what the hellish history I had that led me to today. Well at least in brief. I do not look for a sympathetic sigh, nor for words of wisdom, frankly I do not need them. I have passed through it all to arrive where I am today god knows how much stronger than I began. I would change nothing of my history bar one detail. I would provide my younger self with an individual had experienced the pain and survived, just to serve as evidence that it was possible. A rather cliché ‘light at the end of the tunnel’.

Now to detail them would still be too much for me I am afraid but just to list seems appropriately distant from the harshness to be able to share with you…whoever you are. So in essence – (please no judging this is a very different me, a younger, lost, manically depressed me, who the world will never see again). From eating disorders of multiple origins, to severe bullying of both verbal and physical (severe is appropriate), to harming (my hands are shaking at this) of myself in order to distant from a reality, body dismorphia and manic depressions following the self image I created. I suffered depressions that meant me attempting to escape my reality, convincing my younger self there was no light left me very much alone in the world, thoughts were never shared leading to spiralling despair. I experienced my own personal hell, a pain I never thought would benefit me. 

Okay i’m sorry i thought I could go through it all but that will have to do. Regardless the point may have been made. 

If you are in that reality, if you experience pain I can make you 2 very real promises.

1 – That reality is not THE reality, it does end, it does pass leading to such a brighter world for having suffered it. 

2 – I am likely to have experienced it and trust me when I say there is no pain the world may cause you that you cannot survive and in some way, prosper from. 

The world is a sickening teacher, the lessons you may learn will not be kindly taught, but they need be learned. 

That’s enough for today. 

 

Aspire to inspire.